A female orgasm or the Big “O” is defined as the peak of sexual excitement. Till date not much is really known about the female orgasm – very much surrounded by myths and hardly understood.
Do women experience Orgasm? As a matter of fact, women do orgasm and with little understanding you can get the Big “O” your worthy of.
What are the Types of Orgasm?
There are generally 5 types of orgasm – vaginal, anal, combo, clitoral and erogenous zones. This differs from person to person. You’ll find an in-depth breakdown on the 12 types of orgasm a woman can achieve HERE.
What Happens to Our Bodies During Orgasm?
Studies reveal that during arousal, there’s an increase in blood flows to your lady parts causing them to become more sensitive – paving way for orgasm.
During actual orgasm the woman’s body – vagina, uterus, anus including other body parts contract about 3 – 15 times according to studies. Many women squirt i.e. ejaculate releasing liquid out of the urethra.
Researchers have suggested that sexual response follows a pattern – a cycle per se during sexual arousal and intercourse. The cycle follows four stages:
- Excitement – the body prepares for sexual activity subsequently being turned on.
- Plateau – breathing becomes more rapid with pleasurable feeling
- Orgasm – Intense feeling of pleasure released following the preceding stages in few seconds
- Resolution – recovery phase after orgasm. Women have no refractory period and quickly become again aroused where as men need several minutes to a few hours.
Health Benefits of Orgasm
There’s little scientific evidence that supports any specific health benefits of female orgasm. While female orgasm has no evolutionary benefit, orgasm is pleasurable and pleasure is good.
- Relieves stress
- Nurtures better relationships
- Boost immunity
- Enhances a person’s mood
Common Misconceptions About Female Orgasm
- Women do not orgasm
It’s a common misconception that women do not orgasm. Many women may fin it difficult reaching orgasm via penis-in-vagina sex alone. Women who fall under this category have a more effortless orgasm through oral sex, clitoral stimulation.
It is also important to note that orgasms won’t come without communication. Communicate with your partner what makes you feel good. Everyone’s body reacts to sexual stimulation differently with different sex preferences – that’s why in any sexual activity communication is key.
- Women who cannot orgasm are sick
While numerous health problems make it more demanding for women to enjoy sex including issues, trauma, poor mental health etc. many women with all round healthy sexual attitudes and good relationship still have issues achieving orgasm during sex. Poor/Inadequate lubrication due to menopause while taking birth control, during or after pregnancy also plays a major role.
- Your sexual partner can detect if you’ve had an orgasm
It’s a common myth that a person can always tell if a woman has had an orgasm. The truth is there’s no way to tell if a woman has had an orgasm without asking.
Every woman experience orgasm in different ways while most women make moaning sounds during orgasm others remain silent. Physical signs such as sweat, redness/flush occur in some but doesn’t in others.
- You have to be in love before you can orgasm
Sex is different for everyone, some women may need to be in love to orgasm, others may not. Hence a woman’s relationship with her partner may or may not influence orgasm during sex.
A 2018 study found that participants were more likely to orgasm if they
- Had longer – lasting sex
- Received more oral sex
- Reported higher relationship satisfaction
- Asked for what they wanted in bed
- Engaged in sexual emails or calls
- Expressed love during sex
- Acted out sexual fantasies
- Tried a new sexual partner
- So, what if I can’t Orgasm
- So what if I can’t just orgasm
Inability to orgasm is a common issue among women and may need to be checked up medically. There’s a mental, emotional and physical aspect to sex, and unfortunately a variety of problems can interfere. When a woman has never climaxed in her adult life, it is called primary orgasmic dysfunction. If she had been able to climax once or twice in the past, but finds it difficult or almost impossible now, it’s called secondary orgasmic dysfunction.